???WOMEN DATING OPENLY GAY MEN???

Ok now it's been brought to my attention that women dating openly gay and bisexual men is now a regular occurrance.  *SIGH* smdh this is just all the more reason why wearing condoms is mandatory. At first women were horrified to find out men were living on the "down low", scared of what they might have "brought them back".  Now I guess it's no longer a factor...gay men are in! I know that gay men make wonderful friends for straight women, but damn! dating?  really???  Well I guess now it's time for straight men to be horrified.  If straight women are dating gay men, and also dating straight men...I think you can see where this is going.  

Now on a more "Nikki G" note, ladies what do you think you are going to gain from dating a homosexual man?  You think you're going to turn him straight? lol NOT.  Do you think that even though he likes men, he'll fall in love with you anyway?lol NO!  smdh self esteem is fundamental...

REAL TALK RANT OF THE DAY!!!

LIVE & LEARN

We all make mistakes, I am no different from anyone else, I mess up, I fall down, I learn by trial and error just like you do.  Everyday should be a learning experience, if you have made a mistake, and haven't learned anything from it, then you can expect to keep reliving and repeating that same mistake until you get the lesson.  We have to stop beating ourselves up over bad decisions.  This is how "baggage" is created.  Forgiving ourselves can sometimes be difficult, especially if our bad decision making has hurt someone else.  But why is it that after the person hurt has offered forgiveness, we still feel guilty?  Maybe it's because we know that we are better than our mistakes.  Guilt is a very strong and sometimes dangerous emotion, it will eat you alive if you don't take control of it.  It can stop you from moving forward, it can cause you to be manipulated into doing things that you normally wouldn't, it can even change your perception of yourself.  So whether you're feeling guilty about the mistakes you've made as a parent, a child, husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, or friend, LET IT GO!  Pray on it, make your peace with the person and/or people you've hurt, and whether they forgive you or not...Forgive yourself.   ~Nikki G~

VISIONS

As we get ready to start a new week, I wanted to offer a lil food for thought.  We all find ourselves day dreaming from time to time, thinking of having the things we lack, whether it be money, love, or countless other things we desire.  Let me suggest to you that these dreams or VISIONS  you're having are simply a taste of what you have to look forward to if you keep the faith and continue to strive for them.  God gives us visions, a look into what could be our future, in order that we might not get comfortable and stuck in the past or present.  No matter where you are in life or in pursuance of your goals, always keep your eyes fixed on the road ahead, and reaching the next level.  Even if you're going through a storm in your life, stay focused, because when the rain stops and the clouds clear, you have to be prepared for the next season.  Life happens in seasons, there are times of storm, crisis, and turmoil, which are always followed by times of sunshine, calm, and fruitfulness.  Through your seasons God gives you vision to hold on to, hope to keep you moving forward, so that you don't become stagnant.  Being stagnant, or stuck in the same place for too long, gives way for negativity and doubt to set in.  So when you find yourself day dreaming of better days to come, thank The Lord for the blessings he has prepared for you, even though you haven't received them yet, enjoy peace in knowing that the best is yet to come... ~Nikki G~

MALE BASHING

All men are dogs? really???  I hate when women say that!  Let's just say that all the men YOU come across are dogs, which would still probably be an untrue statement.  I know for a fact that there are good stand up men out here.  If you haven't come across one, then maybe it's you that's the problem.  Maybe you're looking in the wrong places, or it could be that something about you is attracting dog ass men.  If you're going into realationships with the "all men are dogs" mentality, then that's exactly what you're going to get because you don't expect anything better.  Some women have unrealistic expectations set for men which sets them up for inevitable disappointment.  Keep in mind also that there are some good people out here who sometimes make bad decisions.  Just because your father, husband or boyfriend isn't and/or wasn't shit, don't take it out on the whole male species!  There are ways of filtering out the good ones from the bad ones, the real from the bullshit.  Actually you probably have passed up a lot of good men because you were too busy looking for the wrong man.  Don't get me wrong I know that there are some truly triflin guys out here, but damn ladies! They're not all bad, all the time. 

SN: and PAH LEASE stop hating on your friends man just because yours ain't shit.  Jealousy is not a good look.  Instead of trying to create doubt in her mind about her relationship because you're unhappy,  you need to be trying to ask her for some tips on how to get a good man and keep him! 

REALIZING PURPOSE

Woke up this morning with a new found sense of peace.  I have finally realized my purpose!  Some people spend their whole lives wondering why they're here, and what it is they should be doing.  Living your life not knowing, is not living at all,  you always have the feeling like your missing something, or that you're not where you should be.  I've discovered that your purpose lies in your gift.  Your gift is something given to you by God, something that you're naturally good at, it's a passion, it may even disguise itself as a hobby.   God uses people to bless others and carry out his will.  If you want to know what he put you  here to do, search for the gift he's placed inside of you.  What ever your gift (or natural talent) is, start using it!  How you use it depends on you, some people capitalize off their gifts, some use their gifts to help others,  if you're truly living in your purpose, you should be able to do both.  Once you have realized what he's given you,  The Lord will begin to open and close doors, and move you in different directions so he can get you into places where he can use you. That's when you start living and not just existing.  ~Nikki G~

DREAM KILLERS

I can't stand dream killers!  People who step on the next man/womans dreams just because they are miserable and unhappy with the pathetic state of their own lives.  I wonder how many people never live up to their full potential in life because they allowed someone else to talk them out of thinking outside the box or doing something different. Think of some of the most succesful people we know today like Oprah, Tyler Perry (who was just named the highest paid man in entertainment by forbes magazine), or Bill Gates.  Oprah was abused, Tyler was abused and homeless, Bill was a nerd and outcast, imagine how the "dream killers" must have laughed when they told them how one day they were going to be rich and change peoples lives.  These 3 people alone are clear evidence that anything  is possible. If you're a dream killer, try getting you're own sh*t together and refocusing all that misguided energy on offering the world something positive!  

NOTE: Dream killers come in all forms they can be mothers/fathers, sisters/brothers, husbands/wives, friends, depending on how old you are, even your own children!  So beware!